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5 Tips To Improve Your Kisses (From a Good Kisser)
French kissing is a national pastime. One kiss burns around 3 calories by moving 29 facial muscles. If you are like I used to be - repulsed by the thought of putting your tongue into someone else’s mouth - never fear; 95% of the 278 bacteria packed into a kiss are harmless. In fact, the excess saliva cleanses your mouth further, protecting your teeth from decay and your skin from dermatitis.
Needless to say, French kissing is a hobby that I enjoy. Being a good kisser alone probably can’t force someone to stay with you, but it can sure entice them into staying a little while. French kissing is a healthy, enjoyable hobby. Which is why you could probably use some tips from a natural like myself.
As much as French kissing brings people together, it can also break them up. Around 66% of women and 59% of men have ended relationships with potential partners purely due to incompatible kissing styles. In other words, someone sucked at kissing and the other person just couldn't jive.
It shocks people when they hear that my history with French kissing isn’t as lovey-dovey as my kisses make my story out to be. I used to compare French kisses to mating slugs. Now, I love it. My love-hate relationship with kissing has helped me understand the mechanics of what makes and breaks a kiss. There was a time where I thought the mere sound of people making out was disgusting. But with intuitive diligence, I’ve become a kisser of legendary proportions.
Since I can't really prove my kissing skills through a screen, I'll describe why I'm qualified to give you this advice. Although I could never give you exact numbers or proof, I can say with utmost conviction that I’ve made out with well over 50 people. Rooms full of people, even! Over 90% of the recipients gave me unsolicited compliments about how well I kiss. Even during moments when I walked away from a kiss with self-conscious thoughts about real or imagined errors, I always heard the inevitable: “You’re such a great kisser. That was the best kiss I’ve ever had.”
I never intended to become excellent at kissing; it just happened by itself. I got heaps of “inspiration” from the usual culprits - pop culture, teen movies, books, porn, magazine dating columns, romance culture, and all of the tongue-lashers around me. The first time someone told me I was a good kisser, I chalked it down to personal chemistry. Three’s a charm. By the 4th time it happened, I was expecting the compliment to come and not once have I been disappointed.. Even during moments when I walked away from a kiss self-conscious about any errors I made, I always heard the inevitable: “You’re such a great kisser. That was the best kiss I’ve ever had.”
Ninety five perfect of the people I've ever kissed have told me this.Upon asking others, this is not what other people experience. As someone of a more sociosexual persuasion and rather casual about sex, I've kissed a lot of people. Thus, the population is a rather sizable one. I confess that I've probably kissed over 50 people.
I haven't been keeping track because the world can't handle that kind of power.
If you want to excel at kissing, take a glimpse at my personal art and science through the following bits of advice:
1.) Dental Damage Control: I’m mentioning dental hygiene for a reason. It's important to do as much as you can to make sure that your mouth does not smell like a burglarized mausoleum. Brush your teeth. Use mouthwash. If you want to go the extra mile, avoid eating certain foods, notably the foods that leave a bad taste or have the tendency to “linger” between your teeth. I understand that not everyone is born with the fortune of having good teeth. There are ailments that cause your mouth to be less savory than you might prefer.
I have a weird aversion to eating green things if I know I’m likely to wind up in an intimate situation later on. If I do eat a green thing, I dash away to the bathroom and make sure that there were no food bits overstaying their welcome in my mouth. It's just not sexy.
2.) The Mouth is Like The South - Very Sensitive: The entire mouth is an erogenous zone. Your lips alone are 100 times more sensitive than your fingertips..The mouth and all of its various parts are rich in nerve-endings and have the potential to unleash those feel-good chemicals associated with lust as we know it. Own the erogenous zone. Stay a while and explore a bit before pulling the licks back in. Dart the tip of your tongue in and out. Trace the insides. Get to know the zone you are in, Grasshopper, for each dimension is different than the one before.
3.) Hold The Tongue: If there is a golden rule of French, it’s this one. As far as your tongue is concerned, less can be more. While it’s safe to assume that most people enjoy seductive tongue-play, it is not safe to assume that everyone take the term “tonsil hockey” literally. Not so fast, tiger! Instead of plunging your tongues into the depths of another bacterial ecosystem, titillate their mouth by teasing them a bit. In terms of the tongue, less is more!
4.) Lip Service: Your lips are a very important component of kissing. Unless the lucky recipient likes it rough, take care of your lips and do your best to make sure they aren’t chapped. Based on personal observations, the kissing without the tongue is what shapes most of one’s opinion of a kiss. Don’t be afraid to get creative with your the position of your lips and using it to stimulate the wider mouth while plummeting deep within at the right times.
5.) Go With The Flow: Much like dancing, go with the flow and coordinate your lips’ movements with those of the person you’re kissing. Once you sense a compatible rhythm with lip-movement patterns that seem to elicit your partner's excitement, then keep doing that. Remember: tongues can trip, too. Try to remain as attuned to your partners needs and desires as expressed by their mouth and body movements.
For instance, let's say you want to get a bit daring and nibble so-and-so's lip. Instead of biting their lower lip off, bite gently to gage their reaction. If you have any doubts about what "gentle" means, then go with whatever offers more softness and work your way up. Your partners words ("Oooh!" "Uh, I don't like that.") or behaviors (grinding up against your leg vs. wincing, pulling away, moving your face away, etc.)
When in doubt, ask. It's a lot less awkward to clarify than it is to disrespect someone's bodily autonomy and botch a kiss.
A good kiss is like a good slice of pizza or the perfect way to eat a Reese’s: there’s no right way. The definition of “Good Kiss” is very personally-defined and by no means universal. Much like any other art or sport, practice makes perfect, but sometimes, it boils down to team personal chemistry and mouth maneuvering. When you sharpen your kissing skills, you make the world a better place.
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