Breaking Up With The Partner Of Your Dreams
Sometimes, love feels too good to be true. Other times, it is too good to be true. The partners of our dreams are the people who consume our thoughts without benefiting us with an IRL equivalent of a solid relationship. While they might be real in person, your lack of a relationship means makes your connection is not what you'd like it to be or, worse yet, mostly one-sided. If you’re suffering from unrequited love, then it’s time to come back to Earth and fall in love with all that you do have. It's the first step toward living the life you intend to create for yourself. That way, when the right person comes along, you’ll be ready to take them on because you won’t be emotionally preoccupied with someone who isn’t there for you.
A dream-partner is someone who lives in our heads rent-free. We don’t spend as much time with them in person as much as we do in our thoughts. If their presence in our lives were in proportion to the amount of time we think of them. In the meantime, the people whom actually love us suffer. And the people who could love us wind up seeing lackluster versions of ourselves because we’re not embodying the effortless sex appeal that is natural confidence.
A hottie like you is like the sun: the world wilts and dies without your heat. All of these great things could be happening, but instead, Hell is freezing over during your absence.
Don’t think that the presence of real involvement absolves someone from “dream” status. Our brains are complicated organisms, so it’s hardly shocking to consider the chance of one trying to project its fantasy onto the rest of the world and hope it follows suit. You might know your crush, but how many dates have actually taken place outside of your head? When you go out with them, are they actually the person they seem like or are you just projecting a filter over them to make them seem ideal? Isn't that what love is supposed to do?
There’s no point in fawning over someone unless you’re fine with them not reciprocating your feelings and the relationship going nowhere. Energy flows where your attention goes. Concentrating on someone who doesn’t return your feelings only creates more emptiness in your life. Those who don’t believe in your beauty hardly deserve a place in your thoughts, let alone a free one.
You owe yourself the best allocation of your time, energy, and resources. Now, it’s time to work with what you’ve got and compost these experiences to fertilize a happier future.
Dream-partners are a symptom of being high on infatuation and in need of a come-down. Infatuation is our body’s way of telling us someone is hot. It transforms life into a romance novel, but when blended with non-fictional reality, it becomes problematic. Old flames of all kinds wear a “bull’s eye” on their foreheads, although exes bear the bulk of this unsexy burden. Our brains trick us into obsessing over “the ones who got away” because on some level, their rejection feels more like the world’s rejection. Why? It’s rejection issued by another person from whom you actively sought acceptance. And, when compounded by the weight of other baggage, their rejection seems a whole lot more like not only a rejection from the outside world, but the rejection of whom we are as individuals.
Needless to say, these dream relationships can turn into nightmares very quickly. To give more of yourself to someone who isn’t keen on receiving is to give less of yourself to the people who do want you. In the end, all of those nights you spent wondering what so-and-so thought were nights you could’ve spent sleeping. Better yet, you couldn have been dreaming about someone who loves you back enough to dream next to you... while right by your side. Or you might’ve done none of this, but remained happy anyway. Spending your time mourning over a relationship that never was will keep you from investing in the advancement of your present and future benefit. Even someone with a dream-partner happily goes through the motions of a relationship, they still know deep-down that there’s this parasitic dream-partner gnawing away at their emotions.
There’s no use sweating your bed up over reasons that don’t involve high-quality sex, sleep, or something else that makes you smile. Your sexy body is a temple for your sexy soul. You’re a love goddess to someone out there, so you might as well surround your temple with worshipers. But first, you must worship yourself and know the ways in which you like to be worshipped. Facebook-stalking your crush and fantasizing about them is nice, but it’s not a substitute for actually
Making your happiness dependent upon someone from your past and uninvolved with your present or future is equivalent to putting an expiration date on happiness. It’s assuming that you’re too peculiar for even 1 out of the millions of humans on Earth to satisfy. And why would you put yourself through that kind of misery on any planet?
Love is a powerful drug. When under its influence, we do irrational things like obsess about someone whom hardly ever thinks of us. If your crush brings you more pain than joy, then it’s about time to re-assess what’s going on in that beautiful nutter of yours. This sort of one-sided relationship isn’t good for you. The love of our dreams isn’t real until it’s manifesting in real life. If you try walking the corridors of a cloud-castle, you’ll have a rude awakening upon pummeling back onto Earth.
The best way to break up with dream partners is to avoid getting involved with them in the first place. Keep each tit on par with every tat and embrace rejection as your protection from unsuitable partners rather than the refusal of your entire personage. By remaining down-to-earth about love, you automatically differentiate what you wish your relationship with someone was from the relationship it actually is. No, it doesn’t hurt to trip on crush fantasies. But it’s detrimental to consistently choose a castle in the clouds over real shelter to keep you safe from the place where dangerous weather comes from.
The people we long for the most aren’t always the ones whom we live happily ever after with. Unless someone reciprocates your love, they are merely an object of your affection. True love doesn’t involve objectification unless it’s kinky and consensual all at once.
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