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Poe's Deadly Daughters: Young Women
In Defense of Young Women
By Sandra Parshall of Poe's Deadly Daughters
Do you believe today’s teenage girls and young women are Too Stupid to Live, like the “heroines” of old-fashioned damsel-in-distress novels?
Does the very mention of a high school or college girl bring to mind the image of a dummy who spends all her time texting?
Apparently a lot of people, male and female, still think that way.
Recently I participated in a discussion that made me realize just how little respect young women receive from both men and other women. We were talking about those old damsels in distress, and I suggested that today’s young women are more savvy and sophisticated about the dangers around them than women of the past.
My statement was greeted with a chorus of “No!” One woman said, “They’re all too busy texting”—meaning, I assume, that they wouldn’t notice they were in peril until they were tied up and a rape was underway.
If they’re abducted or raped, it’s their own fault, because they’re not paying attention. Too Stupid to Live.
A lot of people in the room looked old enough to have teenage or young adult daughters—or granddaughters. I felt like asking them if they held such a low opinion of their own flesh and blood, and if so, who they blamed for the girls being idiots.
I didn’t get a chance to ask, which is probably just as well. I also didn’t get a chance to point out that the world is filled with teenage girls and young adult women who are smart, accomplished, and focused on achieving their goals in life. I didn’t get a chance to point out that almost 50% of both medical school and law school students are female, and nearly 80% of veterinary medicine students are female.
When one of these undeniably intelligent young women is raped and/or abducted and held prisoner, does it happen because she’s “too busy texting”? Is it her own fault?
Abduction and long-term imprisonment is an extremely rare crime, although publicity about three or four cases in recent years might make it appear to be something that happens every day. Each time someone is freed from such a situation, we start hearing the same question: Why didn’t she escape? Even when people are charitable enough not to blame a girl for being abducted from her home in the middle of the night or grabbed off the street and being forced into a vehicle, some want to hold her responsible for her continuing captivity. She should have found a way to escape.
Rape, unfortunately, does happen every day—many times a day, in every community. Victims are still reluctant to bring charges because they know they will have to prove it wasn’t their fault. They will have justify being in that place at that time. If a girl was drinking when she was raped, she can forget about receiving sympathy from any but the diehard bleeding hearts. She was “asking for it." she had to know the minute she took the first sip in the company of a man or men that she was giving them permission to have sex with her, even if she lost consciousness. If a man put a date rape drug in her drink, that was her fault, too, because she shouldn’t have been drinking in the first place. Who can blame the guys? We all know that men, and young men in particular, have no self-control when it comes to sex. It’s all up to the female. If she’s raped, it’s her fault, whatever the circumstances.
But the truth is that rape can happen to the most careful of women, of any age. Men who rape strangers often plan their crimes and stalk their victims. They know where and how to commit their crimes without getting caught. They are almost always bigger and stronger than their victims, they may carry deadly weapons, and they have the advantage of surprise. Men who rape estranged wives or girlfriends are all too often aided by police and courts that fail to enforce protection orders, and then bring charges against women who dare to defend themselves with weapons.
I don’t believe today’s young women suffer from wholesale stupidity. I don’t believe they’re all as empty-headed as some older people insist they are. I believe a huge number are achieving great things despite growing up in a society that still places little value on women’s achievements and is still inclined to blame the victim when that victim is female.
Our young women deserve better—especially from other women.
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