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A Story of Manipulation
By Hardeep Sabharwal
Manipulation: Is it in human nature?
Manipulation is not a so common word but if you talk to any one, he/she will definitely tell you that once in my life a situation arose and someone ( very near or known) tried to use me taking advantage of my situation, and will tells about his/her weaknesses and bravery while facing such situations, and mostly these situations as described by the people are most humiliating moments of life.
On the contrary if you ask anyone, "Have you manipulated anyone in your life?", ninety nine out of a hundred people will say, "No, never!"
So the question arises that if no one is manipulating others, how is it we all face manipulation once or more in our life?
Last week, a Facebook friend of me told that she got a contract from a paying website as a senior writer. I was in need of work, so I asked her if she could help or guide me to such work, as I also need work and money. She gave me her number and asked me to call her. She talked to me on phone and told me that she would help me by paying for any articles I wrote. She gave me some topics, and I wrote the articles. The next day, she sent me a message that said to call her on the number given after three hours. I called, and she gave more topics. That very evening, I had a missed call from her. A little strange, but I felt as she is helping me, it is natural that I spent money on phone calls, so we discussed a lot more, and that was a good discussion .
Two days later when I opened the internet and searched for the website, I was shocked to see that the article I wrote was published under her name. I was so upset, but somehow I remained calm. I just sent her a message and asked, "Could you please send me the links to the articles?"
Her reply was, "Links?????"
But perhaps she understood that why I was asking. Her email arrived after a while with some terms and conditions.
"Your writing is not so good," she said (and yet on phone, I was told I was a good writer). She continued, "Try writing in my style, I will pay you 30 paisa per word," and yet on the phone she told me it was 35 paisa. She told me I could remain a ghost writer, as the website had contact with her and not with me. Except on the three times we spoke on the phone, I was never told once that she would use all my writings under her name. I replied to her that I am definitely a bad writer, but nevertheless, I still I didn't want to be a ghost writer. I have just asked her for help as we sometimes ask friends.
And her reply was, "I tried to help you as a friend, but only because for me, your financial need was the first priority. No client would simply give you work, so I thought let me help you to get some payment first and then by the time you brush up your writing skills, I would directly request clients to give you individual work. You clearly misunderstood me."
I simply closed that chapter, but it gave me an example that how we deliberately we want to use the people who are in adverse condition pretending that I just wanted to help him. Anyways, the God almighty knows the real facts, and that is enough for me.