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The Truth About Being a Male EscortBy Jaidyn Crowell What is the first thing you think of when you hear the term “male escort”? If I had to guess, you are probably thinking of a freakishly handsome guy who has to sleep with senior women for money. And that is exactly what I thought. However, after shadowing an escort from Gentlemen4hire, I discovered some shocking insights. Harry (not his real name) has been in the escort business for close to a year now. He applied due to needing some extra money for his biomedical sciences degree. Gentlemen4hire was one of the few agencies which don’t require him to sleep with clients. Harry has a girlfriend who is aware of what he does. She's completely comfortable with it. On the first day of shadowing him, I visit him at his home in Manchester. He doesn’t live like a student. I find a plush home with all the latest electronics and luxurious furniture. He has a client later that evening. “It is all pretty easy, and frankly, I am quite a chatty person, so this is the best job for me,” he says while playing Call of Duty. As the afternoon draws to a close, Harry goes upstairs to get ready for his client. In the escort industry, repeat business is everything. Therefore, Harry invests in designer clothing, attends the gym regularly, and also ensures that he is well-groomed. We decide to meet the next morning to discuss how the appointment went. The next day, I kick things off by asking why a woman would pay a guy to simply spend time with her. According to Harry, they don’t want the strings associated with dating. Most want to go out with an attractive guy and have a friendly conversation without the obligation to meet or communicate in the future. He mentions that his date from the previous evening was a 26 year-old business lady. She had recently arrived in the country and was feeling lonely. Intrigued, I asked him whether any bedroom romance had occurred. He states that her husband paid for his services. For about 5 minutes, I didn’t say anything. I was shocked by this new world I had just uncovered. However, it makes sense. We are living busier lives, and it isn’t always easy to arrange a time to meet friends. I can understand why a lady would book a date at a time which suits her, and without the pressure of sex. I then asked Harry whether he had ever slept with any of his clients or not. He replies with, “… It has happened in the past prior to finding my girlfriend. However, I don’t have to do it if I don’t want to. Clients are fully aware of it. Personally, I prefer not to go down that path because for one, I am in a relationship and two, I think it can lead to drama afterwards.” Harry can make more in one evening than the average UK worker makes in 2 weeks. Therefore, I can understand the draw of it. For many men, this seems like the ideal job. However, Harry informs me that a majority of men wouldn’t be able to do what he does. To be an effective male escort, you need to have the following qualities: - Assertiveness (Women don’t like a walkover.) - Attractiveness - Well-groomed - Able to show empathy - Able to skim people and respond accordingly - Know boundaries regarding what to discuss Harry says it is rare to find the above qualities in a man. And this is why business has never been better. With divorce rates on the rise and people leading busier lives, it can be challenging to find a meaningful connection with another human being. Platonic escort agencies provide a good alternative to forming deep bonds. Sadly, what might seem like a meaningful conversation is nothing more than a transaction. Once the date is over, any connection is broken. Despite the rise in escorting, Harry’s family take a dim view of his work. According to him, they don’t believe that he isn’t being paid for sex. Plus, they would like him to take on a normal student job such as bartending. “The money is simply too good. I am able to study and have time for socializing. Just 4 bookings in a month is enough to sustain my lifestyle. Why work more for less money?” To be fair, he has a point. Companionship and dating are now commodities, and I think in a few years, escorts won’t be frowned on. The escort industry is a good example of how jobs are changing. With technology on the rise, people need to be fairly innovative with the types of part-time jobs they take on. We have more freedom than ever to launch new global businesses. Harry is simply taking advantage of his natural charm in order to put food on the table. Harry then goes on to show me how much work he puts in at the gym in order to look the part. According to him, a six-pack is a must. At that point, I look down at my gut, saddened by its potential to make me a highly paid escort. He also has private healthcare which helps him to get regular checks on his teeth and overall health. His clients are wealthy, so he likes to keep up with the latest fashion trends. One thing that impresses me about Harry is that he treats the life of an escort as a business. He is able to detach himself from the job and not get too emotionally invested in clients. Plus, he is willing to reinvest back into the business. Just before I leave, Harry mentions that he is considering being an escort even after his studies are over. Repeat clients take him shopping and he is beginning to build a growing client base. As compared to what he would make as a biomedical scientist, escorting is much more lucrative. What do you think about this insight into the platonic male escort business? Let us know. CommentsComments are closed.
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