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No Plus One Kicks Singlism In The Butt Do you want to make the absolute best out of being single? No Plus One by Steph Young and Jill Dickman can help you master this art in a matter of simple steps. In my opinion, the official site was accurate in its claim that this book is, in fact, "the ultimate manual for living an amazing single life." just might be one of the best investments you could ever make. The Facebook like page summarizes the book a guide on "how to take risks, keep your standards high, get over an ex, and deal with bad dating advice." Buy it now or forever regret missing out on your singleness. No Plus One is the single-centric dating guide the world has been needing to read for a while. Once upon a time, the author was a Mormon who found herself single times infinity. In the introduction, she explains, "I began to look at life differently and saw that the ingredients to living a fantastic single life were there all along. I scooped these up and assembled them into the nine fundamental lessons for living life fully as a single woman." This book's chapters use insight reaped from personal experiences to help the reader with everything from debunk popular yet contradictory and ineffective love advice to "how to have a crush so that one can enjoy the great emotions that result from crushes without getting caught up and swept away." No Plus One can help you enjoy all the benefits of your "single" identity at full volume by embracing your singleness and staying smart about dating. Unfortunately, our society frowns upon singleness as a complete state of being in and of itself. Instead, many of us femme folk are forced to place more value on our relationship statuses than we would be otherwise. According to a Psychology Today article, "singlism is the stigmatizing of adults who are single. It includes negative stereotyping of singles and discrimination against singles." After a lifetime of being conditioned to believe that a good partner "completes" you, singlism is what gets in the way of our ability to enjoy our relationship with ourselves to the fullest. Singleness is a fairly central feature of my sexuality that never went away when I entered a relationship. I am autosexual and autoromantic, which means that I have sexual and emotional attractions aimed towards myself. My connection with myself is essential to my health as an sexual and loving individual in all of my relationships, including the relationship I have with myself. I found the writing exercises to be especially helpful with strengthening my communication skills with myself. I appreciate how No Plus One is not one of those books that operates upon the assumption that you're in a relationship or even ever need to be in one at all to be happy. But let's face it: Fulfilling relationships bring happiness to the people who enjoy them and there's nothing wrong with wanting at least one of them in your life. I cannot understate this book's excellence at addressing issues as an individual rather than someone else's relationship partner. Not only that, but the authors implore you to explore yourself through "homework" that are specifically designed to challenge and enrich your mind and heart. The point of these exercises are to help you become comfortable with being by yourself. Loneliness is not the same thing as being alone. As a reader with a relationship anarchist perspective, a mononormative focus can sometimes complicate my ability to connect with a book. But in this book, the author references romantic rejection she received based on the "reasoning was that his career might suffer if he was seen to have a girlfriend." This author helped remind me that certain relationship values and goals are universal. For instance, many polyamorous people--especially unicorns—go through the hurt of their lovers being embarrassed to be in a relationship with an openly poly. Triads with the toxic presence of couple privilege often expect the unicorn to stay in a stable once she's hunted, far from the judgmental society who'd give them flack for it. As a poly person, I sometimes forget that people might have other reasons for wanting to keep our relationship a secret. Even if you're one of the people who embrace their singleness like I do. If solopoly or solopoly-curious people can put aside the fact that this book wasn't necessarily written with non-monogamy in mind, then it can be a tool in self-discovery. This book is excellent and I highly recommend it to everyone! We need to embrace ourselves as "single" individuals instead of solely depending upon someone else's love for fulfillment #Real #NoPlusOne #BookReview #StephanieYoung #JillDickman #RelationshipLiterature #BeingSingle #LoveIt Visit our shop and subscribe. Sponsor us. Submit and become a contributor. Like us on Facebook and follow us on Twitter.
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