Friendship: The Attraction of Attraction

Magnet Play

By Emily Rose
QuailBellMagazine.com

"....the best people on this planet are magnetic. We just have to find the right poles."

Some people believe in soul mates. Some people believe in love at first sight. Others believe that long ago, humans were split into two, destined to spend their lives in search of their "other half." Everyone has a different idea of what love and friendship mean and how they are supposed to come about. The thing is, nothing goes how you think it's supposed to happen. Sometimes, it even ends up better than you could have hoped.

Count how many friends you have. Not Facebook friends or Twitter followers, but real friends you converse with and enjoy spending time around. Now, how many do you consider best friends? The number from the former question to the latter probably decreased by a fair margin. As humans, we like to surround ourselves with people who simply make us happy. Whether it be common interests, quirky traits, romantic attraction or whatever, we enjoy spending our time here on Earth with certain people because they're special to us.

Recently, I've been surveying my friendships. I'm not looking to do a clean sweep like a closet being changed over to winter clothing, but some things need a little...altering. In befriending some amazing new people recently, I have discovered some of my older friendships were severely lacking something. What I never realized was how big of a variable I was missing in the whole social equation.

Magnetism.

Just like poles connect two magnets, people connect through their souls. People are naturally drawn to others for whatever reason. Friendship and love shouldn't be work. Now, that's not to say they don't require some work, but generally, befriending others should be relatively effortless. If you find yourself having to work to make a friendship happen, maybe it's just not gonna happen.

Being drawn to someone isn't about anything except a pure, natural connection. It's the tightness in your chest when they wrap their arm around you. It's your abs seizing because your conversations end up being laughing fits. It's about being able to be absolutely ridiculous in front of each other without a second thought. It's waking up and wondering how they are or what they're doing. It's about loving them for who they are, not who they aren't. Most importantly, it's being selfless and doing what's best for them, even if it might not be what benefits you. It all circles back to respect. Sure, you can have these feelings without that magnetism, or rather you think you can. You know it's real when one of the first thoughts about them is what the future could be like, even more when you can't stand the idea of them not being a part of it.

The truth is nobody knows you better than you do. So, take my words of advice in stride, but you have to look deeper than the surface to find the truth (or fallacy) in people and in life. Some say think with your head, others say think with your heart. I think you'd be doing yourself a favor to listen to both. Perform your own emotional checks and balances of sorts. Have control of your life because, face it, the only person guaranteed to be with you for the rest of your days is you. That being said, you can change the odds. Spend your time with those who enrich your life the most and who you ultimately love being with.