7 Stupid Reasons Why Men Get Married
When you cross the invisible line between youth and an adult life, questions like, “Have you already found the bride?" or "Are you going to get married?" become your constant companions. You have to get used to these phrases because their number will increase in proportion to your age. It’s up to you to decide how to respond to such questions. There is a list of reasons people get married, which can hardly be called right.
1. Your mom wants to babysit her grandchildren.
It’s your life, and children will become only your area of responsibility. Try to find some other ways to please your mom, for example, buy her a dog or a two-week trip to Paris. It is one of the weird reasons why people get married. Children are a serious step, which requires much more than a banal attempt to diversify the leisure of your bored mother.
2. The son of your mom’s friend has already married.
Yes, it’s about the notorious son of your mother's friend who has already built a career, visited the space, and saved the hostages from terrorists, and he had girls from Ukraine. According to your mom, his marriage is a checkmate, and you must change the situation dramatically. However, you should get married only if you are ready, and you are in love with your partner. You hardly want to repeat the fate of a man you aren’t even familiar with.
3. You want to have a housekeeper.
Tasty dishes and clean apartment are, of course, pleasant things, but there are more acceptable ways to optimize your life without looking for the financial reasons to get married. For example, you can learn how to cook. After all, there are cafes and cleaning service. If you choose your wife on the principle "she will be a good housekeeper," then your family life will be unhappy and dull. This means that love in such marriage had died before it was created.
4. They say, “Nobody will want to be with you in 10 years.”
It is a good attempt to make a guy get married. However, marriage, unlike other socially significant stages of a man's life, is not an objective measure of success. Pragmatism gives way to romance, and rationality is measured not by numerical indicators but sensual impulses. Therefore, it's up to you when to get married. Your choice will be right.
5. You have a job, so it's time to start a family.
Your decision to marry should not primarily be influenced by external factors. Even if the lack of a job was the only constraining factor for marrying, you still need to ask yourself many questions before taking such a big step, "Do I make enough money to provide a future family?", "Do I have a steady job?", "Am I willing to exchange all the benefits of a bachelor’s life for marriage?" After all, often, money offers better opportunities only for an unmarried guy, and there are still many financial reasons not to get married.
6. Marriage will make you be more serious.
If a man in his thirties still doesn’t have enough reasons to be more serious, then marriage isn’t recommended for him in principle. There are things, which every man should watch regardless of whether he is married or not. The understanding of the necessity to work, build a career, improve professional skills is hardly connected with marriage. It goes apart and is dictated by the instinctive impulses of self-realization. Marriage in this sense is more a process of harvesting.
7. You don’t want to offend your girlfriend.
If you take such an important decision as a marriage, just not to offend the girl who has offered to marry her, then you will hardly become a good husband. The inability to say, "No" when you want it is not the best quality for the future leader of the family. This is just one of the wrong reasons to get married.
It’s your life, and children will become only your area of responsibility. Try to find some other ways to please your mom, for example, buy her a dog or a two-week trip to Paris. It is one of the weird reasons why people get married. Children are a serious step, which requires much more than a banal attempt to diversify the leisure of your bored mother.
2. The son of your mom’s friend has already married.
Yes, it’s about the notorious son of your mother's friend who has already built a career, visited the space, and saved the hostages from terrorists, and he had girls from Ukraine. According to your mom, his marriage is a checkmate, and you must change the situation dramatically. However, you should get married only if you are ready, and you are in love with your partner. You hardly want to repeat the fate of a man you aren’t even familiar with.
3. You want to have a housekeeper.
Tasty dishes and clean apartment are, of course, pleasant things, but there are more acceptable ways to optimize your life without looking for the financial reasons to get married. For example, you can learn how to cook. After all, there are cafes and cleaning service. If you choose your wife on the principle "she will be a good housekeeper," then your family life will be unhappy and dull. This means that love in such marriage had died before it was created.
4. They say, “Nobody will want to be with you in 10 years.”
It is a good attempt to make a guy get married. However, marriage, unlike other socially significant stages of a man's life, is not an objective measure of success. Pragmatism gives way to romance, and rationality is measured not by numerical indicators but sensual impulses. Therefore, it's up to you when to get married. Your choice will be right.
5. You have a job, so it's time to start a family.
Your decision to marry should not primarily be influenced by external factors. Even if the lack of a job was the only constraining factor for marrying, you still need to ask yourself many questions before taking such a big step, "Do I make enough money to provide a future family?", "Do I have a steady job?", "Am I willing to exchange all the benefits of a bachelor’s life for marriage?" After all, often, money offers better opportunities only for an unmarried guy, and there are still many financial reasons not to get married.
6. Marriage will make you be more serious.
If a man in his thirties still doesn’t have enough reasons to be more serious, then marriage isn’t recommended for him in principle. There are things, which every man should watch regardless of whether he is married or not. The understanding of the necessity to work, build a career, improve professional skills is hardly connected with marriage. It goes apart and is dictated by the instinctive impulses of self-realization. Marriage in this sense is more a process of harvesting.
7. You don’t want to offend your girlfriend.
If you take such an important decision as a marriage, just not to offend the girl who has offered to marry her, then you will hardly become a good husband. The inability to say, "No" when you want it is not the best quality for the future leader of the family. This is just one of the wrong reasons to get married.
